Last week I wrote about the Drama Triangle and moving from this to the Winner's Triangle. This week I thought I would expand on this and focus on actions that we can take to move from one to the other.
Below are diagrams very briefly outlining these, (you may notice I have upgraded my labels on the Winner's Triangle- I needed to!). It is easy to see that the behaviours in the Drama Triangle will not serve us, others or proactively solve problems as well as those in the Winner's Triangle.
Drama Behaviour | Winner Behaviour | Suggestions for Shifting |
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Victim | Creator |
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Rescuer | Coach |
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Persecutor | Challenger |
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These suggestions aim to inspire people to move away from being entrenched in the drama and towards being empowered. When we are empowered we are better able to advocate for ourselves and others, see more possible solutions, show empathy and respect. This enables us to speak with personal authority whilst respecting the authority of others to do the same.
There is enough drama already... let's create less in our own wee piece of the world so we can live happier, healthier lives where we can stretch, grow and make positive change.
Megan Gallagher, is a mum, teacher, coach, speaker, PLD facilitator and consultant. She weaves her teaching experience, intense interest and curiosity about the brain, and coaching skills together in all that she does.
One of her greatest pleasures in life is seeing others shining and this is the basis of the work she does. She specialises in coaching for children, families and educators, and shares her expertise in wellbeing, curriculum design, and impactful teaching and learning as a speaker and facilitator.
For more information please check out meggallagher.nz. You can contact her at meg@meggallagher.nz
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